Top therapist says there is one skill people need that will help ‘attract and seduce anyone’

So you've met someone you think is perfect for you, but they don't like you the way you like them.

Rejection is something pretty much everyone has to learn to deal with in their life, and it'd probably helpful to say that you should learn to take 'no' for an answer.

Or you could take your cues from old movies which have aged badly and try to win them over with dramatic gestures that truly express the depth of their feeling.

However, be aware that following someone to their home and showering them with big gestures might get you arrested for stalking, and just try to find anywhere that still sells a boombox.

"My love life soon turned around after I gained the confidence to wear yellow tracksuits with pink and blue jackets." (Getty Stock Photo)

Rather than going for the big display of affection, it might be time for some introspection - someone not being attracted to you isn't some great failing on their part to recognise your brilliance.

If you're consistently failing to attract people though, then it's time to look at yourself and figure out whether the person who needs to make a change is you.

Speaking on the Diary of a CEO podcast, therapist Marisa Peer explained that if you want to be more attractive to people, the key was developing a sense of self confidence instead of thinking you weren't all that.

She said: "If you have this belief 'I'm not good enough' and you fake it people pick it up, they know instinctively.

"Oh wow, that hat's a bold choice. You must be very comfortable in your own skin." (Getty Stock Photo)

"They can't help it because it's at a level beyond communication where you have a low sense of worth, people pick it up.

"When you have a high sense they pick it up too. When you fake it you're still faking it, that's why you've got to get to that level of 'hey, I'm so great'."

Peer explained that before she got with her husband, she was 'so happy being by myself' and that meant she wasn't chasing him like he was someone she needed.

"You have to get away from the neediness," the therapist explained for people who wanted to seem more attractive and desirable.

That confidence is an attractive trait is likely not a new concept to you - many in the field agree with Peer's analysis that confidence without arrogance or cockiness makes someone more desirable.

Knowing who you are and what you're about is seen by many as a green flag, so how are you supposed to convey this?

It may sound simple but the way to seem comfortable in your own skin is to be comfortable in your own skin, as Peer said already faking it would be detected.