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A woman has sparked debate online after revealing the four word message that put her off going on a first date.
The woman explained that after she made a profile on a dating app, she started chatting to a man who asked her out for food.
While she was initially enthusiastic about meeting up, she shared a second message the man sent which has completely put her off.
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Taking to Mumsnet, the woman asked if she should still go ahead with the date as planned, or if she should run a mile.
But people were pretty divided with their views.
While some agreed it would be an instant turn off, others said they thought she should at least give the date a chance.
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"I made a profile on an app and some guy's asked me out for a bite to eat. I said yes, and we've agreed to meet this weekend," the woman explained in her post.
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"Now he's said shall we have a short walk first before the food to 'see how we feel'?
"That's obviously code for, I'll see if I fancy you and if not I don't have to eat with you. It wasn't a fancy sit down meal, just a quick bite to eat like.
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"Should I still go ahead? I don't know why, this has put me off slightly.
"It was only some waffle place, I wouldn't go for a formal meal for a first date either. Should I still go?"
Explaining he wanted to walk around the city, she added: "I just don't want to feel like I'm being assessed so much.
"A waffle/crepe whatever is hardly a court summons, it's barely more than a coffee. If I'm that grotesque surely he can finish it quickly and go?"
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People were pretty divided, but many agreed it didn't make sense to walk aimlessly through a town centre.
"I would never ever go for a walk as a date unless it was someone who was into hiking. Walking down the road with someone is not a date," one person wrote.
And another said: "I could understand him not wanting to do a whole formal meal type of thing but a waffle!
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"At least with a waffle, once you’ve finished you can leave if you don’t like him.
"What do you do on an aimless walk? Keep walking awkwardly with no end in site. That’s a no for me."
Others thought the woman was being too harsh, however.
One added: "I think you're being a bit sensitive - it makes sense to suss the other person out before committing to a meal.
"Doesn't necessarily mean fancying, but what if their vibes are just totally off? Gives you a chance to suss him out too."
And another said: "No way would I have food on a first date. Eating in front of someone you don't know is just cringe. Have a short walk and grab a coffee."
What do you think?
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Dating trends