If you are dating someone and you feel as though they could be a narcissist but can’t be sure, here’s the number one sign that they are.
The dating world is hard, and finding your match is even harder.
But when you think you’ve found the one, they turn out to be someone you can’t even recognise anymore once the love bombing wears off.
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Now, there are so many ways to find out if your partner is a narcissist, and what type of narcissist they are, but there’s only one major red flag that can determine whether your suspicions are right.
That’s what dating coach, Matthew Hussey believes.
Hussey is a well-known expert in love, having ran his YouTube channel for the past decade, where he provides all the best tips and tricks to improving yourself, understanding how to navigate relationship issues and knowing when to call it quits.
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In 2013, he wrote a bestselling book called Get the Guy before releasing his 2024 book, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily.
Now, he’s focusing on one major red flag for narcissism that can be easy to miss.
Posting on YouTube, Hussey explained that if your partner does this one thing, you’ll have your answer about whether they’re a narcissist.
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He explained that it all comes down to how they react to an argument.
More specifically, how they deal with your emotions once they’ve apologised.
He said: “Many narcissists will never apologise and expect you to move on.
“But even the ones that can apologise, will often expect that once the apology has been issued, the situation is over.”
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He shared that this could come in the form of the person telling you that they are sorry, but once you show that you have leftover feelings or are still hurt or upset, all hell breaks loose.
He said: “They will become incredibly impatient or even angry at the fact that you are still making a ‘big deal’ out of it.”
Hussey explained that the narcissist in this situation would ask, ‘why are we still talking about this?’ or telling you that they ‘thought it was over’.
This is because, to them, it was over as soon as the incident happened because their response is ‘devoid of compassion’.
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Hussey said: “What they want is for you to move on as quickly as possible, because they moved on the moment they did it. In fact, for them, there was nothing to move on from.”
Essentially, they inflicted pain and got over it immediately and cannot allow you to feel upset about their actions.
In the long run, this can be a dangerous cycle, where you are deflated and no longer know if what you feel is appropriate for the situation.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Dating trends
Britt Jones