We all have our own ideas of what makes a happy marriage or relationship.
Perhaps it’s about sharing loads of different experiences together, giving each other gifts or, having plenty of sex.
But there’s often that long-running joke being made that the older you get and the further into your relationship, then the less sex you have - however true that may be.
And a ‘marriage expert’ has explained why not having sex with your significant other can be so ‘damaging’ to your relationship.
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High Thrive Coaching bill themselves as ‘international marriage experts’ and offer ‘relationship reboot’ courses to have couples out.
They also create various videos, sharing relationship tips and advice with one of these clips giving their opinion on ‘why is a sexless marriage so damaging’.
Apparently, it’s down to the consequences it has on your connection.
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“In a healthy marriage you have sex and unless there are extenuating circumstances,” the woman claims. “If both people are physically able to have sex, they should be.”
The coach claims it’s the ‘mode of a healthy relationship’ to be sleeping with one another.
But she says: “Many of us get into, what we call, ‘an intimacy withdrawal’. It’s like our bank accounts, our emotional accounts, our physical accounts, our relational accounts have become over withdrawn.
“We are in a negative balance.”
The relationship coach went on to say it’s often seen that a couple may be home at the end of the day and while one may want to ‘share something’, the other is ‘checked out’.
This then leaves the person feeling like they’re not heard or that their partner isn’t ‘emotionally supportive’ of them.
It’s therefore suggested by the coach that having sex in a marriage stops people from checking out in the relationship.
However, of course, it’s important to point out that not everyone finds pleasure and emotional connection through having sex and instead, may have their own ways of being intimate.
But either way, the premise still stands that it’s important couples have that connection and spark, however you go about finding and maintaining it.
For some in the comments, ‘when sex disappears, the marriage is null and void’.
While others said having regular sex is ‘one of the main things’ that keeps their marriage ‘so excellent’.
Mainly, it’s important for plenty of people to ‘keep the passion alive’ in their relationship.
Topics: Lifestyle, Sex and Relationships
Jess Battison