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A couple who go on 'spicy cruises' have revealed how they have to sign a waiver before they board the ship.
Married swingers Bella and Jase have been in a non-monogamous relationship for the last 10 years after they first started dating at high school.
The pair got into swinging over a decade ago and had their first experience with other people during Spring Break.
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But these days, the high school sweethearts regularly head off on swinging cruises, where they meet, make connections and have sexual experiences with other couples.
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The cruises are mainly aimed at couples within the swinging lifestyle - although this isn't mandatory and many couples simply enjoy experiences with each other.
There are playrooms - where couples can either get involved or simply watch - 'clothing optional' areas, themed fancy dress nights and intimate workshops delivered by expert sexologists.
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Speaking to LADbible, Bella and Jase explained exactly what goes on during the cruises, including the red flags they look out for when meeting other couples and the kind of guidelines you have to adhere to while onboard.
Before couples actually start their holiday, they must sign a waiver to essentially acknowledge that they know what kind of cruise it is.
"You have to sign a waiver saying you’re aware what kind of cruise it is and that you will see nudity and that you’re okay with the type of cruise it is," said Bella.
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One misconception is that couples also have to have STI testing before they're allowed on board, but Bella explains this isn't the case.
"There isn’t any required STD testing to board the cruise. I think the misconception comes from people thinking everyone is fu**ing everybody and doing it unsafely.
"I think it would be extremely invasive to require that."
Jase added: "People in this lifestyle take their sexual health very seriously, it’s normal to get tested regularly.
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"Almost every single person uses protection and if they don’t it’s couples who have discussed it.
"There are a lot of people who get tested right before and bring the test on to show people, which is totally normal, too.
"It’s not required but people do take good care of their sexual health."
Bella and Jase also explained how they strike up conversations with fellow, non-monogamous couples.
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One trick used in the swinging lifestyle is to give out what Bella and Jase call 'sl*t cards' which are essentially business cards.
"We have sl*t cards which are kind of like couple business cards," Bella said.
"They have pictures of you and your partner, you can add your room number, maybe email or usernames.
"People give these out on the cruise. There’s lots of different swinger websites, so you can put your usernames on there to keep up with them after the cruises. We always keep our cards. Some people make bracelets and give them out, too."
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According to the pair, when they first start talking to other swingers, there are usually a few different conversations that take place before it's decided if they want to take things further.
During these chats, important topics such as consent, rules, and boundaries are often discussed.
And if things progress, the couple have a card game up their sleeve to help break the ice.
"We make an ice breaker card game and we typically play that.
"If you get a card that’s more of a sexy card - for example we have one that says go down on the person to your left - you ask for the consent first."
Bella and Jase explained that while they'll sometimes meet up with new couples, other times they see the same people every time.
"Sometimes it will be with the same people, sometimes we’ll add more couples in, sometimes it will be with new people, sometimes it’s nothing," they explained.
For more information on the cruises, you can visit Bella and Jase's website here.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Travel