The seven things narcissists do that will probably never make sense to you

A dating expert has revealed the seven things which narcissists will do in their close relationships which most of us will never understand.

The term 'narcissist' is a phrase which is often thrown around pretty easily, with any argument or sign of selfish behaviour being written off as narcissism.

However being in a relationship with a diagnosed narcissist can often be an extremely draining experience for the person on the receiving end.

Dating expert and YouTuber Matthew Hussey has since created a video explaining the most common habits which a narcissist will do in a close relationship - and why they are difficult to understand for most of us.

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They can be great... sometimes

The first confusing sign which Hussey highlights is a narcissist's ability to switch from being the perfect partner to someone who treats you horribly with ease.

"When this happens, it's so maddening," he says, adding that it causes the other person in the relationship to constantly chase the 'perfect' moments.

"What you're experiencing is them being great because every box is being ticked right now... The danger is who they are when they're trying to get their needs met."

Empathy gets you worse treatment

Acknowledging that empathy and compassion is something which is often valued in typical interpersonal relationships, Hussey explains how this can be manipulated by a narcissist.

"Think about in a relationship like this, how often you end up forgiving someone," he began, adding that an empathetic person will be repeatedly taken advantage of their kindness.

"For a narcissist our empathy isn't seen as some beautiful quality... it's seen as their ticket to doing whatever they want."

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They are able to move on impossibly quickly

For most people, a feeling of shame or guilt typically comes after they have (either intentionally or accidentally) wronged someone. However this isn't always the case with narcissists.

Urging viewers to think about all the times they've been hurt by someone and consider how they'd feel if the roles were reversed.

"Many narcissists will never apologise and expect you to move on," Hussey explains, adding that a narcissist who does apologise will expect you to immediately move on from the situation.

"Their response is devoid of compassion."

A narcissist's response to being caught red handed

Hussey explains the next warning sign that you may be in a relationship with a narcissist is when they make up outlandish lies in response to being caught red-handed.

Using the example of infidelity, he states that a narcissist's response to concrete evidence of cheating would be to turn the situation around and chastise you for 'invading' their personal space - leaving you feeling like you're the one in the wrong.

What they do when you need them most

Describing this sign as one of the most 'earth shattering, reality bending' realisations, Hussey explains that a 'true' narcissist will have no issue with letting someone down in their greatest moment of need.

Using examples as financial difficulty, devastating health diagnoses or family issues, he adds: "You cannot know the extent to which a person like this will abandon you in the key moments until those devastating moments actually happen."

A narcissist's emotions come from a different place

Despite stereotypes that a narcissist is incapable of showing any emotion, Hussey explains that they are very capable of doing so... but it doesn't come from the same place as others.

A typical example of this is when someone threatens to leave a narcissist or when they feel like they're losing control - they will be quick to guilt you with their emotions.

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This can often disarm the other person, who then begins to doubt their own feelings and lead to forgiveness.

"It's not that their tears aren't real or an act," he explained.

"Their tears may well be real but their tears are not for you, their tears are for them."

How quickly they can discard you

The seventh and final sign that you are either with or have been with a narcissist is the shocking way they can discard you once it's over.

"I feel like every narcissistic relationship is a sort of shocking realisations to wrap your head around," he said, adding that one of the most 'shocking' realisations for someone in a relationship is how quickly a narcissist can cut you off and 'seemingly' move on with their life.