Diagnosed narcissist says there's one 'dead give away' to tell if someone is one
A diagnosed narcissist has revealed the one personality trait he 'can't unsee' when it comes to identifying someone else with the condition.
We live in an age where curiosity around mental health, the differences between individuals and how people work are at an all time high.
And thanks to social media, we've been made aware of a number of conditions and disorders that may have been swept under the rug in previous generation.
One of these is to do with narcissism, or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), to be exact.
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The term itself is thrown around a lot by those online, and while people are aware of some of the behaviours that people with the disorder can display, the actual definition of it can be misunderstood.
What is a narcissist?
Trends on platforms such as TikTok have brought attention to ways you can identify someone with NPD, but how would you describe someone that is a diagnosed narcissist?
Somebody that has the disorder can be identified as a person that has a grandiose sense of self-importance.
The mental condition is said to be related to a 'pervasive pattern of grandiosity', according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V).
But to learn more about the disorder in general, who better to listen to than someone who has medically been diagnosed with NPD?
'Dead give away' method to identify a narcissist
Jacob Skidmore, better known as The Nameless Narcissist on social media, creates content around his experience and knowledge on NPD, having been diagnosed with the condition.
In a video uploaded earlier this year, the creator spoke about a simple way that people can use to identify narcissists.
Starting the clip, he admits that he doesn't usually 'try to tell if somebody else is a narcissist out in the wild', adding that narcissists are all different and smart enough to know that displaying all of their traits would mean that they wouldn't be as praised or well-liked by peers.
"But there is one thing that whenever it happens or I notice it, I can't unsee it, mainly cause I didn't know how abnormal it was until after I was diagnosed and that's what I noticed," he explained.
"A lot of people with narcissistic personality disorder like myself have this tendency where the only way for us to really assess something's worth or have an opinion on it is by comparing it to other things," Skidmore revealed.
The content creator went on: "We view the entire world very hierarchically - what is superior? What is inferior? I mean, the moment I walk into a room, I'm ranking everybody around who looks the most charismatic, who's the most attractive, who seems the most well connected, who's coming off as the most intelligent?"
He admitted that he takes 'a few minutes' to create a hierarchy in his head of people in the room.
Skidmore said this applies to everything, even things they won't care about, it all goes back to language that compares themselves to others, saying it's all about 'establishing a sense of superiority.'
"On the other hand, if we didn't enjoy something, it's not that we point out why we didn't enjoy it, we compare it to something else that we view as better," the narcissist explained.
Topics: Mental Health, TikTok, Social Media
Joshua Nair