Psychologist reveals three signs you're a ‘conversational narcissist’
A psychologist has shared three signs your day-to-day interactions could suggest you are a conversational narcissist.
When people hear the word narcissist, they'll often think of the evil geniuses and psychopaths portrayed in various TV and film franchises.
However it's important to note that not every narcissist is a psychopath and not every person who displays narcissistic tendencies is a full-blown narcissist themselves.
Worried you could be guilty of conversational narcissist? Don't worry, a psychologist has recently shared three signs you could be a conversational narcissist with Forbes.
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What is a conversational narcissist?
A term originally coined by sociologist Charles Derber, a conversational narcissist is described as someone who always redirects conversations towards themselves.
Got rained on while on the way to work? Well the conversational narcissist not only got rained on but also fell in a puddle.
Feeling unwell? You can sure bet that the conversational narcissist is feeling even worse and wants you to know all about it.
Essentially, a conversational narcissist is someone who is unable to take part in a conversation without turning it back to themself.
Making it all about them
The first of these red warning signs is that you can't engage in a conversation unless it involves talking about you.
As we mentioned earlier, a conversational narcissist will often look for ways to circle the discussion back to themselves, their life and achievements.
This isn't to say that you can never talk about yourself in a conversation - after all empathising with each other can lead to a building a deeper connection.
The difference comes down to how their constant the reason why you're spending so much time talking about yourself: is it to relate to or comfort someone or just to show off?
If it's the latter, then you could be guilty of conversational narcissism.
Trying to relate becomes self-centred
As we discussed earlier, a key indicator of a conversational narcissist is someone who is unable to relate to someone else without making the topic of conversation about themself.
US psychologist Mark Travers uses the example of a guest at the funeral using somebody else's grief as a springboard to garner sympathy.
Now this isn't to say that every misguided attempt at relating to another person is conversational narcissism, however, Travers adds that a conversational narcissist is to focused on one-upping everyone else to notice when they've overstepped the mark.
Lack of engagement with others
Another key indicator of a conversational narcissist is someone who neglects to ask others about their lives as it doesn't involve talking about themselves.
However, Travers notes that anxiety, low self-esteem or poor social skills can be mistaken for conversational narcissism.
If you're worried about appearing as a conversational narcissist, practicing simple techniques such as active listening, asking supportive questions and holding back on giving advice unless asked can be good starting points to improve your interpersonal communications.
Topics: Health, Mental Health
Brenna Cooper