‘Hotwife’ debunks major misconception people get wrong about lifestyle
For anyone familiar with 'hotwifing', the word will likely conjure up exaggerated scenes of cuckolding or one spouse having a harem of lovers on the go.
That's assuming you're familiar with the idea of hotwifing (or hothusbanding) to begin with, which isn't another way to say your partner is pretty fit.
If you're not up to date, the term fits under the broader umbrella term of consensual or ethical non-monogamy and describes a person who derives pleasure from seeing their partner get it on with another person.
So, you can see where the stereotypes and misconceptions come into play with this one.
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However, one person who practices the lifestyle wants to set the record straight on this topic.
Sharing her experience with fellow adult content creator Adreena Winters, adult performer Hotwife Alice revealed that the non-monogamous aspects of her relationship are not based on jealousy.
"I think a bit of a misconception is that it comes from a like controlling angle or it has to always be about humiliation, because mine and [her partner's relationship] is like the complete opposite of that," Alice explained.
"I think a lot of misconceptions about maybe swinging or cuckolding or the lifestyle is that it always comes from one person and a bit of control," she continued.
"It’s all equal. It’s not like we’re doing it to get something over on someone or try and make someone jealous... It all comes from a very mutual grounding."
She went on to add that stereotypical portrayals of cuckolding in porn also contribute to misconceptions, highlighting that there is no specific 'look' for a person who enjoys watching their partner get it on.
"You can still be really hot yourself, be in good shape, like be a normal human in society and still like being a cuck," she added.
Alice also revealed that she's been faced with misconceptions when speaking about her chosen lifestyle with friends and family.
"When I'd open up to like my family and friends, they'd be like, 'Oh, he's having his cake and eating it'. [or] 'Oh, he's making you do it'," she explained.
"And then like the more they got to know our dynamic and our relationship, they were like, 'Absolutely not'."
Alice isn't the only person who's spoken candidly about her hotwifing, with life coach Carli Foster previously telling LADbible that it had been 'a very liberating and empowering experience' for her.
"It's great for both of us because he gets a lot of sexual pleasure from it, so it's obviously fulfilling his fantasies and desires, but it was framed to me so I could go out and have some fun," she said.
"If it's the right dynamic for people it can be really empowering and enjoyable for both parties, done the right way."
What are the differences between 'hotwifing' and swinging?
While hotwifing involves just one person carrying out sexual acts with someone outside the relationship, swinging is seen as more of a 'team sport' with everyone taking part.
It's also somewhat more sociable, as swingers tend to 'be friends both in and out of the bedroom'. In many cases, the couples will go out and get to know each other before getting into the swing of it (pardon the pun).
However, hotwives don't necessarily feel the need to be friendly with their sexual partners, and may want to have sex with a physically attractive male, regardless of his personality.
With both, everyone involved knows their roles and communication is key in making sure it all works smoothly.
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Lifestyle
Brenna Cooper