Look, I hate to put a downer on things but the reality is, while you might think your relationship is 10/10, there might be things going on without you realising.
Yep, I’m talking about cheating. Because we all know there’s those sh*tbags out there who have to go and spoil it all by being unfaithful.
And sometimes they get away with it for far too long despite any red flags. So, I do hope for all of our sakes that none of you lot are being cheated on in your relationship.
But being realistic, some probably are so let’s get clued up to be able to catch them out. Helpfully, an expert has revealed four easily missed signs that your partner could be cheating on you.
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Being on their phone more than usual
Psychotherapist Bhavna Raithata told the DailyMail that if they’re spending such an excessive amount of time on their phone to the point they’re not even paying you attention, then it’s a red flag.
And as you might expect, the big telltale sign is even they keep suddenly hiding it away or changing the pin.
Or maybe, you’ve noticed they’ve changed the volume they speak at when it rings.
Either way, Raithata explains they’re ‘shutting their life down, layer by layer by layer from their current partner’.
Gaslighting you
I mean, a red flag in any relationship really. Raithata says cheating brings out this kind of ‘insidious behaviour in the cheater’.
The expert says they’re simply projecting their own guilt onto you and even sowing ‘the seed of doubt’ in front of your friends.
“And this is devastating. You may feel like you're losing your mind because of it,” she explains. “They're projecting their insecurities onto you.”
Suddenly getting super snappy
The psychotherapoist said those who cheat can often have angry and short-tempered behaviour due them being ‘distant and detached’.
“I've also had a couple of clients who have then challenged their partners on this and they've become almost physically aggressive," she said.
“If your partner is becoming challenging, it's self protection, because they don't want to be found out. It's their secret. They know there will be repercussions.”
Instead of going off you, they’re all over you
Yeah, you might not have expected this one as you’d probably imagine a cheater to lose interest in having sex with you – especially when they’re getting it elsewhere.
"Intimacy is physical and emotional. What you've been sharing with your partner is very sacred. It really bonds us,” she explained.
"With an affair, you have an increased libido for this reason, you become like a Duracell bunny. And partners, who may temporarily feel guilty about this, redirect this heightened sex drive towards their current partner.”
However, she warned it could just be a physical release for tension rather than emotional with many of Raithata’s clients actually releasing their partner is cheating during sex.
“Suddenly their partner is simply just going through the motions, there's no eye contact for example and this is heartbreaking,” she added.
But, on the flipside, a red flag could be if a once ‘really good intimate life’ suddenly goes ‘dead in the water’.
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Jess Battison