A former sex worker, Samantha X, has identified three main reasons why women start to look elsewhere for sex.
Dating apps, busy schedules, work conflicts - it seems that the world of romance has become a million times harder than it ever was before.
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And, due to the chaos of the current dating climate, some women have opted for male escorts, and Samantha X has explained exactly why.
After spending an entire decade as 'Australia's most famous escort', Samantha X - real name Amanda Goff - has come to find out quite a lot about people's sex lives and what key things can lead them to infidelity and paying for sex.
Samatha worked as the owner of a busy escort agency, as well as running an advertising platform for male escorts and, throughout the years, she's had 'hundreds' confide their 'deepest darkest secrets' to her.
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"They told me why they booked male escorts and what their secret needs were," the former escort revealed to the Mail Online. "I know why one 46-year-old divorcee spent $60,000 in five years on male companions and I can assure you, it wasn't for the conversation."
While it 'takes two to tango', Samantha explains that 'women can be just as tricky in the dating game as men'.
In a world we can get our groceries, shopping and takeaways delivered online - it's no surprise that people are also booking their romantic connections online too.
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With no worries about ghosting, bread-crumbing or general dating faff - Samantha identifies the key difference between why men and women book private escorts.
She said: "Women don't need connection like men do; we get our emotional needs met by our friends, family, even our pets. Women don't want hours of endless talking. We do enough of that in our real lives."
"Women want the F word: fun," she continued.
Here's the rundown on what they do need, according to the sexpert:
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1. They want their confidence back
Samantha explains that a big reason why women sometimes fork out thousands for sex is to rebuild their confidence.
She notes that 'having kids changes women's bodies' and that such a physical change can 'be a hit on [their] self-esteem' and can leave women feeling 'unsexy and undesirable'.
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Drawing on her years of knowledge from the industry, the former escort recalled that one mum said her 'secret sexy liaisons with a young male escort' made her feel 'alive again' and totally restored her self-esteem.
2. They want good sex
Plain and simple: women want some satisfactory bonking.
One divorcee told Samantha: "I was sick of men coming over to eat meals I'd cook for them, and the food was always more satisfying than the sex."
Ouch.
With an emphasis on finding a man who 'puts her pleasure first', Samantha explained that some women just wanted to 'get down to business' with someone good-looking and without any of the drama that follows a relationship.
Alongside this, she also noted that women felt they could more easily act out their 'sexual fantasies' without the fear being 'judged'.
3. They want to be respected
According to Samantha, many women are sick and tired of a general lack of respect when it comes to dating.
Whether it's unsolicited 'd*** pics', having the assumption that 'all women are easy', 'whinging too much', or being 'intimidated by independence' - she explained that arranging an escort is just a whole lot easier.
She said: "It was the ease of booking an allocated time, knowing what to expect, 'getting down to it' without the games and importantly, walking away knowing you still have your power."
So, there you have it - the three reasons why women cheat and opt to pay for sex instead of dating traditionally coming from the sexpert herself.
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Rhiannon Ingle