Woman sparks debate after demanding husband return engagement ring when she realised how he paid for it
Engagements are something that are one of the most important milestones for couples who intend to marry and follow the traditional route.
It’s something that takes months, if not years of planning.
So basically, c**king it up isn’t an option.
Well, whether you buy an expensive ring or a more affordable one matters to some women too, but what if you pay for it in such a terrible way that it calls the whole marriage into question?
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This is what one woman who took to Reddit wants people to know about her silly husband.
Taking to the Am I The A**hole subreddit, she revealed the crazy details of a fairy tale proposal gone wrong.
She asked whether she was in the wrong for wanting her husband to return her ring, and it’s not because it’s ugly.
She said: "AITA for 'demanding my husband returns my engagement ring to the store because he is making me pay for it through our joint account?"
Oh, the cheek of him.
She explained to shocked users: “My 30-year-old husband and I have been married for just under three months and have been having a huge argument about my engagement ring.
“We got married one month into him proposing to me. It wasn't a fancy wedding and we had our honeymoon right after we signed the papers at the courthouse. He gave me a diamond engagement ring that's close to $8K - a two-carat lab diamond.
“He didn't have funds available readily as we are saving for a home so he put this ring on a payment plan.
“I found out after we married and merged our finances that he has been withdrawing funds from our joint account (we make roughly the same) to finance this ring."
She carried on: “I was just taken aback and honestly put off by the fact he is making me pay for a GIFT he gave to me.
“We have been having some arguments lately and he feels that ring is a wedding expense and it's only fair that I contribute towards it too, and that as a woman of this day I shouldn't hesitate to be an equal partner. I call bulls**t and shared my thoughts on this whole thing.”
Some of the commenters were divided, to say the least.
A few people thought that she was being materialistic and that her expectation for him to pay for a flashy ring when he’s making the same income as her is selfish.
One said: "’Expectations... I knew I deserved... I wanted... I won't apologize...' So he makes the same as you - money all goes in the same account but you say you're paying for it?
“How so if he makes the same? And yeah, if you want something so expensive, and he had to finance it, then it wouldn't hurt to help a little since you deserve it and all.
“JFC, it truly sounds like your husband is in for a long, bumpy ride. I wish him well.”
While a lot of people straight up called her TA (the a**hole), others quickly defended her based on the principle.
One jumped in: “NTA. Return both the ring and the husband.”
And a second person commented: “NTA. Making someone pay for their own gift is tacky.
“And if he couldn't afford to pay for the ring on his own, then he should have said something before he bought the ring, not secretly start making you pay for half of it. If I were you I'd separate your finances quickly.”
Do you think she’s TA or not?
Topics: Weddings, Sex and Relationships, Money, Reddit
Britt Jones