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Topics: Sex and Relationships
Jess Battison
Sure, you might fancy the absolute pants off someone but there’s always the possibility that just one thing they do or say can totally throw things off course.
Although, you don’t exactly want to be caught out by that, you want to be in control. So, experts have offered up all sorts of ‘red flags’ to look out for with daters trying the ‘waiter test’ on dates to check what their partner is actually like.
And this expert says there’s one question you should ask your better half that could ‘make or break’ your relationship. Only, you’ll probably want to make sure you get this one in early so you’re not having to deal with a ‘who gets the dog’ kind of situation.
Sabrina Flores is a love and relationship coach who shares mental health and relationship advice on TikTok.
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In her video series for ‘healthy relationship checkpoints’ for couples to engage with, she suggests different questions and conversation starters to stop problems before they even begin.
This includes questions like: “What area of your relationship can you foresee becoming a potential conflict in the future and why?”
And one question she writes ‘might make or break your relationship’.
“If you and your partner have not talked about this yet you need to stop what you’re doing and send this to them,” Flores warns.
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She guarantees that getting clarity on this ‘might save your relationship in the future’.
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“A disclaimer first – you’re probably going to have different answers to this question but that’s ok,” she explains.
“The goal is not to start an argument right now, the goal is to see where you guys differ and come to a compromise, so later on it doesn’t become a bigger issue.”
And the question in question? “When, if ever, is it ok to lie?”
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Flores warns not to start any arguments about this but to ‘just talk’ and to see where you ‘differ in opinion and come to a compromise’.
Some users commented to say their partner and them have agreed the only thing ok to lie about is ‘good things like presents’.
With others agreeing: “It’s only okay to withhold the truth if it’s for a surprise like a gift, bday, anniversary, etc.”
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But many said: “We both agreed with never.”
Whereas one suggested: “’To protect the other’ would be the answer that makes the most sense, but you also protect them by telling the truth so I’d say, why would I lie?”