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A couple living in an open relationship have spilled the beans on what does and doesn't count as cheating.
The married swingers - who love nothing more than a spicy cruise - are called Bella and Jase and regularly document their open lifestyle on TikTok.
Having been in a non-monogamous relationship for a decade, after they first started dating at high school, they love nothing more than heading on adult-themed cruise holidays.
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There, they meet and make friends with other similarly minded while also having sexual experiences with them.
In one of their most recent posts about their relationship, the Americans revealed some of the niche questions and situations that they could land themselves in and whether they count as cheating or not.
For monogamous couples, it might seem rather alien but nonetheless, is incredibly educational when it comes to understanding how some live a different lifestyle.
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The first question from Bella was whether it is cheating if she keeps going with another partner while Jase went to the toilet.
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Answering, he says: "No, that's what I would want you to do."
Jase's turn next, where he asks if it is cheating if he starts flirting with someone on the dance floor at a swingers event that Bella hasn't been introduced to yet.
Bella jokes 'is she hot?' and Jase says 'yes'.
Responding, Bella goes: "Then no... just kidding, it's not regardless... but hopefully she's hot."
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The third question sees Bella ask Jase if it is cheating if she has been flirting with a couple in her DMs and she plans a date without him.
"Yes, definitely," he says.
Jase's go again, where he asks Bella if it is cheating if, in the middle of a party, he leaves to go and do something intimate with a couple and he doesn't tell Bella about this.
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"Yeah, yeah," she says. "What would you be doing that'd be weird."
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Another question from Jase asked if it was cheating if he received intimate photos from one of their friends.
Responding, Bella says: "No. I hope you're getting some and you're sharing them with me."
And on a more left-field note, Bella then asks if it would be cheating if everyone involved in a swingers encounter finished at the same time and Jase then went and got the other woman involved a snack but not one for his wife.
Jase said it definitely would count, with Bella jokingly adding: "Yeah you better get one for me too."
Commenting, one TikTok user said: "This is like the opposite of me and my partner."
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A second added: "I feel like the snacks question is really the crucial element here."
The snack question resonated again, with a third writing: "The snack is legit the most important question. Like, are you kidding me?!"
And a fourth wrote: "Every couple has their own boundaries. You just do what is right for you, rock on."
Topics: Sex and Relationships, Social Media, TikTok