A woman has been left gutted after reading a message that her husband sent a model on social media.
Taking to the internet, the woman asked for advice after explaining she wasn't sure what constituted as cheating.
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Many people have different views on what actually counts as 'an affair'.
While for some people, even a flirty comment would be classed as 'emotional cheating', others are far more chilled.
But what about messaging another person online, asking to meet up?
While the woman's husband hadn't physically cheated - that she was aware of - the Mumsnet user explained that she was devastated over the betrayal.
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She explained: "Two days ago I was browsing the Internet on our laptop and I clicked on a link to instagram, which was already logged in on my Dh's account.
"Curiosity got the better of me and I went through his messages (which I have only done one other time during our 10 years together).
"I saw he had sent a direct message to a model who lives in the same city as us, it read 'hello love! I would love to meet you', it also said underneath the message 'invite sent', I don't use social media but I assume it's an invite to chat. The model never responded."
Explaining that she was in shock, as her husband had only ever been a devoted partner and father, she added: "We have married acquaintances and family members we know that have cheated on their spouses or that flirt with others and he always berates these people so this has come as a huge shock to me.
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"He has always shown himself to be a man of honour and has always given me everything I wanted and needed. Whenever I'm unwell he will always help nurse me back to health. My family always tell me how lucky I am and I believed it."
The mum explained that she decided to confront her husband, who admitted he had had a 'moment of weakness' and would never have actually followed through with meeting the model.
She explained that she then sent a screenshot of the message to his family in their group chat - but she didn't get the response she had expected.
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"They told me that they understood my anger but he has not cheated as he never met this woman and that the conversation never went further," she said.
"I don't know if this a cultural thing (they're Italian) and normal for Italian men to behave like this. They did however tell him off over the phone as to why he even went to message another woman."
Explaining that her husband was deeply remorseful over what happened, she asked others for advice on whether his misdemeanour actually counted as cheating.
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Mumsnet was pretty adamant that although it technically wasn't cheating, it was still wholly unacceptable.
Meanwhile, others said it only wasn't cheating because the model didn't respond.
One person wrote: "It’s not cheating, but it shows intention to and that’s a deal breaker for me. He’s been thinking about it, a moment of weakness is a drunken kiss."
While another said: "I would certainly call this cheating. He's trying to meet other women. Eventually one will respond.
"Why are some of you minimising this?"
What do you think?
Topics: Sex and Relationships
Lucy Devine