It would be reasonable to think that you could go to your family for help with any problems you may be facing - after all, they've known you almost your entire life so surely they have your best interests at the forefront.
However, Tore Kesicki (@mindbodynetwork), an NLP Master Practitioner from the US, has taken to TikTok to explain why we should think twice before opening up to our loved ones.
Kesicki, who describes himself as an 'entrepreneurial trainer', warns not to fall for the idea that your family members should know everything about your life - especially concerning these four particular things.
Marital problems
Firstly, Kesicki recommends not sharing any marital or relationship issues that you might be having with your significant other - as it could cause some uneasiness between the people you care about.
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"Number one, marital problems," he says. "Family members have a way of forgiving you but they never forgive them."
Family secrets
Gossip and sharing things told to you in confidence - even within families - can cause huge issues, he claims.
Kesicki says to 'hold on to them as if they were your own', adding: "It only causes problems."
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While there should never be a stigma attached to being open about your mental health, Kesicki warns that the wrong people could use it against you if they wanted to - like in an argument, for instance.
"Families tend to like to use that s**t against you, especially when they're p**sed off." the life coach said.
Life goals
Now this is a one that might be confusing as surely you'd want to share your plans for the future with your family - however, this could potentially backfire depending on your plans are, or if you come into a large sum of money, like winning the lottery.
"And number four, don't share your income or goals in life." Kesicki said.
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"Haters are out there all over the world, and trust me when I tell you, there are haters in your family."
And in the comments, many appeared to be the same page as Kesicki.
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One person agreed: "Yep. I learned my lesson with my own mother. I love her but she's a gossip.
"She shared an extremely personal secret with a couple family members and it devastated me."
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A second penned: "I don’t share any of these things with anyone. Learned many many years ago. I wear my poker face everyday."
As a third added: "My relatives always wanted to see my downfall, but I’m still standing—because disappointing them would be way too easy!"
However, others pointed out that if you are surrounded by people that genuinely support you, then it shouldn't really be an issue.
If anything, sharing could be a strength.
"Families meaning relatives, if you have a healthy family you can share," a fourth insisted, while someone else said: "I share money with my family. We are a unit and there’s enough to go around."
Anish Vij